My sister’s house is in foreclosure, so she’s going to live with our parents. He posted on Facebook that he deserves his home.

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Dear Quentin, My sister and her partner lost their home. You are in foreclosure. He’s going to move into my parents’ house, where he won’t pay rent. She claims the reason is to take care of our elderly parents. She is the worst with money and does not earn much. He has always borrowed money.

Anyway, my parents need help. She is my parents’ power of attorney and will be the executor of their will. I don’t know why my dad did that. My suspicion is that you are not in your right mind. She is the closest sister and has no children at home. She is the one who has been helping them the most, although I come weekly. We said that they can stay in the house, but when they pass by, it will be divided into 5 directions, since it is the family house, she seemed annoyed, as if she could not even describe it. He posted on Facebook and other social media, saying that we fight for will, but not for care. I come weekly to see my parents, as does my sister. In addition, you are receiving a payment from Veteran Affairs to care for them. Any advice will be appreciated. The will states that my parents’ house will be divided equally. HJL You can email The Moneyist with any financial and ethical questions at qfottrell@marketwatch.com. Do you want to read more? Follow Quentin Fottrell on Twitter and read more of his columns here. Dear HJL, You have informed your sister of your intentions. Without knowing her, I would say that if she posts on Facebook about private family matters and presents herself as someone who wants to help her parents (rather than help herself at her parents’ house), she is not being entirely honest with you. . or herself or, indeed, her followers. It’s early in the process to take credit for taking care of your parents, of course. If it is someone who does not do well under pressure and / or does not take responsibility well, it seems that their time at your parents’ house may not go smoothly. Just because VA pays you as a caregiver does not mean that you will fulfill those duties. I receive many letters from siblings who are caregivers and, as such, I believe that they automatically have the right to receive their parents’ home. Often it is after they have lived there for many years and their siblings have provided them with varying levels of support. In one such case, a daughter spent $ 125,000 on a home only to learn that the home was placed in a trust for the family.

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“‘There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to children and who brings the family home.’ “- The Moneyist

In another scenario, a brother asked his brother to renounce any inheritance rights should he pass away before him. Her sister-in-law wondered if that was fair. I told her that the siblings should divide the house 50/50 and / or give the resident single brother a life estate, but since she had no financial concerns, I suggested that she give up her rights to the house. I tell you these stories because no situation is the same and my answers differ depending on the circumstances. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to children and who brings the family home. In this case, you have been warned. Keep a close eye on your sister, talk to your parents, and let them know that you are there to help. Given her sister’s history and current opinion on her parents’ will, assuming she knows there is a will, she makes a risky proposition as a power of attorney and executor. Talk to your parents about the reasons for their choices and at the very least suggest a co-executor and an independent party, such as a family attorney, as a power of attorney. A power of attorney is someone who must represent the wishes of the elderly relative, and an executor is someone who must be prepared to fulfill those wishes. Social media posts should be saved in case you need more evidence to challenge your sister’s role as executor of her parents’ will before or after their passing. Your sister has left the cards face up on the table. Now you must decide what to do with them. The Moneyist: ‘I cut his hair because he doesn’t pay for a haircut’: My billionaire husband is 90 years old. I have cared for him for 41 years, but it does not help my son. Hello MarketWatchers. Check out Moneyist’s private Facebook group US: FB, where we seek answers to life’s thorniest money problems. Readers write to me with all kinds of dilemmas. Post your questions, tell me what you want to know more about, or comment on the latest Moneyist columns. By submitting your story to Dow Jones & Company, the publisher of MarketWatch, you understand and agree that we may use your story, or versions of it, on all media and platforms, including third parties.